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273pounds:

The german word for “a face badly in need of a fist.”

I’m not joking. This is an actual word that people use. Kind of like defenestration (throwing someone/something out of a window). There’s even a wikipedia page on that one!

… I need to go back to work.

Man, those Germans! I love that language!

Totally just texted my friend who moved here from Germany to ask her about this.
I am so happy now.

Reblog if a man has ever tried—no matter how ‘sweetly’—to make you change your mind when you said “no”

shakethecobwebs:

thechocolatebrigade:

neverwillstop:

sonneillonv:

underhuntressmoon:

queennubian:

sistahmamaqueen:

missgingerlee:

hazellazer:

Curious how often this happens.

Oh my god story of my fucking life.

almost always.

too many times, too many ways.

And when you keep saying no they get pissy

I had a grown man grab me when I was fourteen after trying aggressively to grope-dance with me. When I twisted out of his grip and shoved him, his protest was, “What’s wrong with you?”

all of them

all of them

My sexually abusive ex-boyfriend used to say to me all the time, “What’s the point of you then?” when I would say no to having sex with him.

Sometimes he’d hug me and tell me I was his favorite. When I’d say no, he’d huff and puff and throw a fit like I just set all of his Pokemon cards on fire.

He’d even do the “Please, just for me?” Puppy-dog eye spiel on me from time to time. “Now, now…” when I said no, but he’d push my head toward his crotch.

He was a bastard.

Casually, sincerely, sweetly, angrily, and everything in between.

I can count on one hand the men who have listened when I’ve sad “no.”

More than once.
And fyi, “If I actually wanted to rape you, I could have” is not a fucking comforting statement.

Because it needs to be said.

What me being sexually submissive means:

That I am one of many people who finds some level of enjoyment in having someone else in charge, for any number of reasons, in any number of ways, primarily in sexual situations.

What me being sexually submissive does NOT mean:

That I am automatically a doormat.
That I am meek or submissive in my personal, professional, everyday life or, in fact, that I am meek at all.
That it is okay for anyone with whom I am not in some kind of consensual, decided-upon, bdsm-inspired relationship with to talk to me in any degrading, controlling, or condescending fashion. Fuck your “good girl” comments or using “slut” as a come-on. Don’t say to me “But isn’t that what you like?” because even if it is, it doesn’t mean I like it from YOU.

The new workout schedule is going well!

Tuesdays and Thursdays are group personal training with four other girls.
Wednesdays are one-on-one personal training with Leia.
Then the rest of the week I choose between home workouts and classes.

Went to my first Zumba class last night too! Alone!

3 months ago

The update

I’m not going to go into details. I’ve learned the hard way about being honest with people.

But the past two weeks in a row I’ve ended up in two separate situations in which a man essentially forced me into doing things I didn’t want to. I tried to talk to my ex-boyfriend about it because he’d said he still wanted to be friends and he was my main pillar for a year and a half, so I thought maybe he would be on my side and listen. No such luck - I got the response “You sure have interesting boyfriends” and then he told me to go talk to someone else.

This is why I haven’t really been updating. I’ve kind of been in “recovery mode.” I haven’t been eating badly, but I’ve mostly been focused on feeling better.

The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.

J. M. Barrie, Peter Pan (via eirenics)

“So is it inappropriate if I tell you I spent all morning trying to save a toxic 18th century Mexican book collection and all I could think about was your hands down my shirt?”

This is actually how I flirt.

I’ve still been taking my photos but this weekend was… extreme. I’ll catch up when I’m fully recovered.

Food Diary: January 3rd and 4th

So I intended to update this nightly, but ended up with a really wonderful surprise last night. There’s this guy I’ve really liked and been kind of half-pursuing something with since Justin broke up with me. We hadn’t been able to do anything for about two months - and last night I finally got to go over and spend the night with him! Definitely worth procrastinating for.

This will be a fairly impersonal update - super-tired, still in the afterglow, and ready for some real sleep.